i'm the eldest of three sibs. i'm also the only girl.
i remember people being so proud of me when i was in preschool. then i also remember people telling me what my future should be. (okay, it sounds like i'm talking about fortune tellers. but no. haha!)
as a child, elders in our family (including parents) repeatedly told us what we should do when we grow up. who we should be, and how we should be that. seriously. i liked it at that time-- when i was still a child and still don't know what to do with my life... the only thing i practice decision making at that time was if im gonna call my friends to go over and play barbie or if i'm just gonna play hotwheels with my brothers. =)))) true.
so i was happy that my parents were there to make decisions for me.
then i grew conscious... i learned to plan and make decisions... and i hated the fact that my parents still think of me as a preschooler..that they still have to decide for me. i know somethings are to be discussed within the family. but there are also certain things they shouldn't interfere with. parents were made to guide and support their children. not to tell them every single thing they should do.
it's like they didn't want me to make mistakes. but it's not because it hurts their pride that their child made a mistake. but because it hurts them as much as it'll hurt me. -____-
but parents, to tell you the truth, i'm willing to take risks and even get hurt... if that is what makes mankind wiser. don't worry too much if i get hurt... wounds heal over time. just think of it like it's my first step (without you holding my hand)... i'd fall and get bruises. but life doesn't stop there. eventually i'll master walking and even running and jumping. so i guess what i'm saying is... let me face these though decisions with you by my side supporting me.
*cheesy* (oh please don't stone me to death if you find this too cheesy...)
while typing this, i took time to read...
SHOULD parents make decisions for their teen-age children?
dear parents, i'm asking you to continue to guide me.. but let me take on tough decisions... be confident that you have taught me well and guided me well. be confident that i'd succeed despite the wrong decisions i've made and will probly make. be confident that i'll learn from them. be confident that you have done a great job in teaching me.
be confident that i always have google if ever i forget...lololol. hahahahaha!!! kidd...
but then again... i still don't fully understand how parents feel... i won't til i be one. and that'll be a long long long way off. this is just my opinion... and it might change over time... forgive me if you find me too naive... i'm still young and have a lot to learn. all i know is this is what i feel... and this is plainly my view on the topic. also, this serves as an appeal to my dad. lololol