i'm the eldest of three sibs. i'm also the only girl.
i remember people being so proud of me when i was in preschool. then i also remember people telling me what my future should be. (okay, it sounds like i'm talking about fortune tellers. but no. haha!)
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as a child, elders in our family (including parents) repeatedly told us what we should do when we grow up. who we should be, and how we should be that. seriously. i liked it at that time-- when i was still a child and still don't know what to do with my life... the only thing i practice decision making at that time was if im gonna call my friends to go over and play barbie or if i'm just gonna play hotwheels with my brothers. =)))) true.
so i was happy that my parents were there to make decisions for me.
then i grew conscious... i learned to plan and make decisions... and i hated the fact that my parents still think of me as a preschooler..that they still have to decide for me. i know somethings are to be discussed within the family. but there are also certain things they shouldn't interfere with. parents were made to guide and support their children. not to tell them every single thing they should do.
it's like they didn't want me to make mistakes. but it's not because it hurts their pride that their child made a mistake. but because it hurts them as much as it'll hurt me. -____-
but parents, to tell you the truth, i'm willing to take risks and even get hurt... if that is what makes mankind wiser. don't worry too much if i get hurt... wounds heal over time. just think of it like it's my first step (without you holding my hand)... i'd fall and get bruises. but life doesn't stop there. eventually i'll master walking and even running and jumping. so i guess what i'm saying is... let me face these though decisions with you by my side supporting me.
*cheesy* (oh please don't stone me to death if you find this too cheesy...)
while typing this, i took time to read...
SHOULD parents make decisions for their teen-age children?
dear parents, i'm asking you to continue to guide me.. but let me take on tough decisions... be confident that you have taught me well and guided me well. be confident that i'd succeed despite the wrong decisions i've made and will probly make. be confident that i'll learn from them. be confident that you have done a great job in teaching me.
be confident that i always have google if ever i forget...lololol. hahahahaha!!! kidd...
but then again... i still don't fully understand how parents feel... i won't til i be one. and that'll be a long long long way off. this is just my opinion... and it might change over time... forgive me if you find me too naive... i'm still young and have a lot to learn. all i know is this is what i feel... and this is plainly my view on the topic. also, this serves as an appeal to my dad. lololol
a very well written post!~ in 2 mos. i'm gonna be a mom.
ReplyDeletei had the same problem too. i think most teenagers when through this.
but thank you for speaking up. this post now serves as a reminder for me.
wow. gee... thanks! :)
Deletehey, i have been reading your blog for quite sometime now. and i just want to say that i love they way you write. so CASUAL and i can totally relate. i hate reading blogs that are too formal...and too strict on format and grammar rules. i don't know why, but it makes me feel so uncomfortable. kudos to you ms. meryl for doing a good job!
ReplyDeletehaha! i totally get you! lol. but i've had people telling me that i write too casual that it sounds dumb T____T anyhoo, thanks for appreciating me. lololol *bows*
DeleteI've been following your blog! and I really love reading them :) hey, why he wouldn't want you to take the degree you want? pinyagan ka na di ba? sabi nung mga dati mong sinulat
ReplyDeleteyou love reading my blog kahit na hindi ako nag-eedit ng posts? haha... i'm so glad to have a reader na hindi grammar nazi. nakakatamad mag-edit ng posts e. lololol... btw, pinayagan talaga ako... tapos biglang bawi. -___-
DeleteIt's a classic dilemma your going through right now and never gets old hehe. "standing your ground" would be your best option here. seems to me you're prepared to take a "hit". that's a sign of becoming a strong willed woman in the near future. and i thinks thats good. though i woild also say na medyo hinay2x din, that is normal to doting parents, they got too used of taking care of "everything" for you sometimes they even forget that they were like that once in their lives trust me i know, i have talked about these things w/ my parents a few times way back so i'm at least 100% sure they went through this one way or another. in fact these are sometimes deemed by the parents as the "rebellious age" coz their kid keeps disagreeing on what they want. like ive said hinay2x lang in the sense of disagreeing to their wishes. stand your ground, prove to them your decisions are also worth taking for your own future. show to them that you are not so fragile in terms of taking hits in life. and trust me eventually once they see that, they'll be much more proud of you than you think! :) a good day to you!
ReplyDeletehaha! thanks! :) btw, do you blog?
DeleteUh... i love reading blogs but don't really have blogs site of my own, though i keep a diet and a workout journal (and some random stuffs i mention in that log) from a forum site where i moderate hehehe.
Deletewhy don't you put the link?
DeleteWell it's a boring log nothing much too read unlike yours or any blog that i follow. and it's a pretty much "straight forward" kind of journal, mostly related to workouts and just a few side-stories along w/ it. nothing much too look forward to when it comes to reading hehe.
Deletei wanna know what's so interesting about my blog that i get around 200-300 pageviews per day from regular readers?
DeleteWoah, you have that much people lurking in your blog (including me :P), my answer? i dunno, eventhough i can't relate much to everything you post. i somehow find "a taste of a simple life" in some of your posts. And besides i like your "lighthearted" themes when you write stuffs. oh by the i posted my link in my reply before this :)
Deleteit is still not much compared to the other blogs i follow. but it's okay. lololol... btw, i saw your site. :) do you know any exercise that could slim down calves? :/ *thickfaced*
Deletewell, i don't think there is a need to compare it to toher blogs to begin with. you are you and they are... errr.. what are they again? LOL! XD
DeleteHaha most of the exercises i know helps "grow" muscles or at the very least make them looking "lean aka toned". you say your calves are big? Hmmmm... the only think i could think of right now why they are big prolly is becaase you love jogging/running and might also have something to do w/ what you eat. but if those are indeed fats like what you've said, there are two things i could suggest, when you jog/run try doing HIIT (high intensity interval training). what you do is for a set period of time you run/jog in a moderate pace then for a short period you sprint. it's kinda like this for 60 secs you jog then after that you sprint for 20-30 secs then jog again for another minute do that for at least 8-10 round that shouldn't take you more than 15 mins to do. if you try to research about HIIT it actually has the "after burn effect" meaning it boosts your metabolism even while resting after the exercise w/ also promotes fat-burning for an extended period even after exercise. There is actually another kind the "tabata protocol" but thats gonna be brutal so stick w/ HIIT for now.
Second thing you can do so that you won't need to worry making your calves lookingtoo big for you legs is make your legs look "leaner" and a bit bigger so that they will be well proportioned sa calves mo. I know you asked a tip on how make them smaller though i think what you really worry about is making your legs look proportioned to your stature. believe or not i had the same prob before, and i also thought making my legs a bit bigger would make me look smaller, well apparently no, by the time i noticed that my legs got bigger they actually made my entire leg looked longer. talk about optical illusion right? and besides working out your legs also would benefit making your "glutes" (google mo nalang ate kung anu yan heheh) look more bigger. i think most women also worry about that body part nowadays hehe. but that's just my opinion so its up to you what to pick. hope this helps a bit.
*disclaimer*
I'm no expert po ha just basing it on my experience sa workouts and stuffs.
Whew! Haba... :P
thanks!
DeleteNo prob, btw i viewed your pics from you zalora post and you can definitely burn that through the cardio program i gave you though will not only burn the fat in your calves but other body parts as well as long the amount of your "calorie intake" is in check day-in day-out. and there is no such thing as "spot reduction" kasi sa workouts so just a heads-up. sina belo,calayan,obagi, athy valencia, etc... lang po pwede gumawa nun hehehe. in fact IMO i think you could use some leg workouts to tone your thighs, just saying but that's up to you. good day! :)
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